I have a companion. She makes excuses to get out of everything that comes with being an adult with responsibilities (and I mean everything!). Worst of all, she’s been doing it for so long that excuses have become ingrained in her personality.
Actually, I’d have more respect for her if she just came out and said it, “I’m not doing this or that because I’m too lazy.” Let’s be honest: if she truly desired perfection in her life, she would go to great lengths to achieve it.
Why should I bother with her?
Because I was once her eager, driven, and determined, and when things didn’t turn out the way I had wanted, I became a victim of my own environment.
As a result, I spent several years spinning my wheels.
The reasons I created were always there to keep me from falling… until they weren’t.
Like my friend, I was playing a blind game of self-sabotage that ended in my life becoming exactly what I had said would never happen.
As with any terrible habit, It’s simple to make excuses. They allow you to feel “okay” with your life by confining you to your own comfort zone. You’ll realise after a while that this isn’t the way you want to live your life. You can accept where you are in your current life (which is an excuse-coated version of “give up”), or you can remove the excuses you make by taking responsibility for your current circumstances and, more importantly, why you have made excuses in the first place.
So, what’s the next step?
Yes, I had considered that.
Here are seven ways to get rid of your excuses to help you get started:
1. Look for clues between the lines
The reason you’re making this argument is because you “can’t” accomplish something.
It’s the dread of failing for some.
Others suffer from a lack of self-esteem.
For some, it’s the fear of failing or losing something valuable.
Consider the following if you’re not sure where the reasons come from: If it was your intention, you would have a better chance of succeeding and achieving your objectives. What is the worst-case situation that could happen? You’ll be able to detect a common theme if you write out every worst-case scenario. It is the issue that you must address.
2. Avoid using the word “and” at the conclusion of your sentences “”However…”
This is a trick I’ve been employing and it’s always worked for me. Stop yourself from saying “I’d really like to,” and instead say “I’d really want to.”” This directs your attention to the methods you’ll need to develop to reach your objectives rather than the roadblocks that are now in your way. Motivate yourself right away!
3. Stay away from other “excusers”
When I moved outside of my comfort zone, one of the first things I noticed was how many individuals I knew who made excuses.
Many justifications, in fact, that when I listen to our chats, it appears that we are continuously discussing and explaining our acts!
Imagine if we put all of our effort on doing!
People you interact with, like you, may not understand they’re making excuses or blaming others, and I’m sure you can point it out at any moment, but it’s something that everyone needs to reach independently before they can change.
Begin with a fresh dialogue. Change the music by yourself. If you get rid of your excuses, you’ll most likely motivate those you care about to do the same.
4. Play a Joke on Yourself
It all relies on your goals, and thinking about them might be daunting at times.
This is especially true when setting lofty objectives, such as obtaining success in the most difficult profession or starting a firm from the bottom up.
It’s easy to become so overwhelmed that you don’t know where to begin.
Make excuses vanish by compiling the most exhaustive list of actions linked to this specific goal.
Cut it up into teeny-tiny baby steps.
Working on one small step at a time and putting the rest in the drawer is all that is required.
When you’ve finished the assignment and don’t think it was that big of a deal.
Then you can continue on to the next phase, then the next, and so on.
It worked for me when I was recovering from tiredness and writing my first screenplay.
Today, I’m able to be productive and work on it on a regular basis without relying on a to-do list.
Then you’ll look back on all of your minor victories and marvel at how far you’ve come!
5. Develop No-Excuse Habits
“Feel the fear, but do it anyhow,” as they say. Recognize your excuses, admit them, and then go ahead and do what you want, regardless of what’s holding you back. It’s a lot more difficult to do than it is to speak. It’s one thing to say you’re in charge of your life; it’s another to say you’re in charge of your life. It’s one thing to say you’ll take the reins, but it’s another to actually do it.
Making these adjustments isn’t easy and might be challenging at times. However, you will feel stimulated and inexplicably satisfied with your achievements thereafter. You’ll be ready to get started on your next objective right away. It’s a habit that, once started, will become addicting! Allow yourself to have fun while trying your limits, and go at your own pace.
6. Use Your Excuses As Warning Signs
You’ll be able to use these justifications to your advantage once you understand why they exist and what they are.
Consider your justifications as a symptom of a larger problem.
It’s a wonderful way for figuring out what makes you tick.
When you’re making excuses, dig deeper to find the source of the problem and work to solve it.
The more you use this strategy, the less likely you are to limit yourself from reaching your full potential.
7. Have Faith in the Process
There are times when you truly want to do something, but your schedule/lifestyle/workload are in direct opposition to your desires.
You’re not denial or attempting to excuse your behaviour in these cases; instead, you’re scrutinising the roadblocks that stand in your way.
If you allow the impediments to remain in place, they will eventually become excuses.
It’s when we start making excuses for something that is important to us.
You don’t need to eliminate excuses if you adopt a proactive mindset when difficulties arise and trust yourself to find a solution. You’re never going to be able to think of one.